If You Want to Change YOUR World, Make Your Bed

My niece was the first one who said this to me. I mentioned it to my husband, a former Navy Lt. Colonel, “Ah, that was the speech by US Navy Admiral William McRaven.”

How does he know these things? He just has this truckload of miscellaneous information in his head.

But he was right. It was Admiral McRaven’s 2014 commencement speech giving an arsenal of motivation and inspiration. It’s a beautiful speech, and I urge you, if you are reading this blog, to watch his speech on Youtube or grab his book on Amazon.

I want to talk about this one statement, and I am going to take a little artistic license changing the statement from, “If you want to change THE world” to “If you want to change YOUR world”.

Since I’ve heard this statement, I’ve thought about it a lot. You know, I realized that everything I needed to learn in order to succeed at any endeavor, I could learn by making my bed.

There are 4 lessons you need to learn in order to be able to succeed:

  1. Start off Small,
  2. Willingness to Show Up Every Day,
  3. Ownership,
  4. Persistence.

Start off small. Every change needs baby steps. When I first learned to ride a bike, I started off as a toddler with a pedal car that I could race around the house. I learned to pedal which taught me going forward took effort from me. I learned the hazards of steering and without guidance I run into things. I graduated to a tricycle which allowed me to take these two lessons and add balance. I learned that I could go faster, but at a price. I had to pay more attention because the crashes hurt more. With each step, I learned more lessons. Yet, the biggest lesson was the need to start small.

The second lesson is the willingness to show up every day. You don’t have to put in 8 hours every day. You just must show up. Maybe you put in 5 minutes, 10 minutes, a ½ hour. Tax season is here, and I need to get my taxes done for the tax accountant. Who likes doing that? No one….. But what I’ve committed to doing is showing up every day for ½ hour to review the final entries on my profit and loss statement. And I made this commitment to myself! Whoa, I didn’t commit to my husband, the tax accountant, someone else? No. I committed to myself because I am important. My ability to keep my commitment to myself highlights how valuable I find myself.

Making your bed, the only person you are committing to is yourself. Here is your self-value meter. Showing up, you know you are valuable.

Ownership! Ownership comes in many varieties, but it all ends with “This is mine!” Making your bed is something you can own. There are no additional people involved in making your bed. It is all yours.

Ownership is also the sense of pride you take in your efforts. Maybe you start out irritated that you made this stupid commitment to make your bed. So, you just pull the sheets up and walk away. Before you go to sleep at night, evaluate your effort. You can tell a lot about the internal chatter of your mind by the effort you put in yourself. Does your bed say the whole process was a bother? Do you think you are a bother? Did you not make your bed? What does that say?

Ownership, the process of learning that you have value, your efforts are meaningful, and learning to value your own judgement instead of others.

Lastly, persistence. Things don’t always go as planned. Somedays are more complicated. But every day you can learn something. Let’s say you have an early appointment and forget to set your alarm clock. You wake-up late and decide you can’t make your bed and make your appointment. So, you pass on making your bed.

If you were to sit down and evaluate this at the end of the day, what would your assessment be? I’m going to throw out some options so you don’t get wrapped up in the 3 internal deaths: judgement, criticizing or blame.

First off, you learned that in order to keep this commitment to yourself, you must take ownership in other parts of your life. Your span of ownership must grow. That means, you must take ownership on setting your alarm to get up the next morning. Not your mom or someone else.

Second, life happens. It’s not going to be perfect all the time. What happens when you’ve increased the span of ownership for your actions and things still didn’t work out. Here is where you start to learn self-compassion. Maybe you can make your bed when you get home. Maybe you can make it up to yourself and straighten out your bathroom.

Persistence gives you the ability to find options.

O.k. so there you have it! Thank-you so much Admiral McRaven, what an amazing person you are. Good-luck and I must go get my sheets out of the dryer!

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For years we have heard, “Take a Glucosamine supplement for joint pain.”

It was something I would recommend because it seemed relatively safe. The only negative I had come across was that natural production of glucosamine stops upon supplementation. Natural glucosamine production in the body doesn’t start up again until about a month after stopping supplementation. To find “3 Powerful Supplements You can take to Quickly Stop Joint Pain” check out this article.

When I started taking a glucosamine sulfate supplement I thought it would be fine. Like many of us, I’m a bit casual with attention to my health. I’m much more committed to my clients’ health over mine. Yet, sometimes things happen and, I need to drop everything and try and figure out what is going on. I found myself free-range grazing through the chocolate candy jars in the office and gaining weight.

I couldn’t figure out why I was eating so much chocolate. I was gaining “belly fat” that is impossible to lose and is usually associated with an imbalance in sugar/glucose metabolism, hypoglycemia, or diabetes.

On my mother’s side, everyone has diabetes. Most of them have type II insulin injecting diabetes. In my immediate family only my sister and I have avoided the diabetic label. Well…almost.

About 20 years ago I was diagnosed diabetic. At that time, I changed a lot and used orthomolecular information to change my world. It took three years and my fasting blood glucose has been a consistent 99.0 until two years ago when it moved up to 100.

Free-ranging the office chocolates has always been my early warning sign that my blood chemistry is off, and I need to do something about it. I implemented my daily vitamin and mineral supplement plan.

Taking supplements day-in and day-out is tedious. But, with a little effort, I can do it.

To help with the weight issue, I started changing my diet going more vegan and doing things that help the liver such as drinking sauerkraut juice (yuck, right?). I know this works. It’s worked in the past. To find an easy Liver Detox, check out this video.  This time, the only difference was I had added in a couple supplements to address the insane amount of stress that I had been under and a supplement for joint pain. That was my glucosamine supplement.

Everything still sounds like I’m on the right path. A month into taking the supplements, I start getting diarrhea. I started feeling exhausted. Then I start feeling bloated. I wasn’t losing weight. I was eating like a wraith and looking like a whale. My body aches were getting worse instead of better.

In Chinese Medicine, my symptoms were Spleen Organ/Channel symptoms congruent with metabolic syndrome and glucose issues in Western medicine. How could that be? I had changed my diet to about 70% vegan, had cut out most sugars, had added key foods to improve digestion and liver function, and started taking supplements. I felt like I was being punished for doing the right things.

I took a long hard look at my supplements. I didn’t have anything that could point to the glucosamine supplement, but it just seemed like the one causing issues. I reduced the amount of glucosamine by 50% and the diarrhea went away for about 5 days. Then it came back. The lack of weight loss and the weight increase encouraged me to hit the scientific research and see what I could find.

It turns out that most of the research had been done with glucosamine sulfate, the type of glucosamine I was taking. Not only could it cause diarrhea, in some susceptible individuals, it could cause diabetes! Really (frowning face…boo), how annoying is that?

The question for me was, “Who are these susceptible individuals”? How could I identify them? It couldn’t be all people with diabetes and it couldn’t be everyone with a strong diabetic history in their past because I would have heard about this sooner.

Diet was the first trigger. It turns out that glucosamine can cause weight gain or weight loss depending on your eating habits. In a high carb/low fat diet, it has the potential to cause weight gain. The exact type of diet I was eating was helping glucosamine turn me into a bloat monster. On the other side, if I was eating a high fat diet, it would help me lose weight.

The second trigger was insulin resistance or metabolic syndrome. It turns out that glucosamine can cause insulin resistance due to the ability of glucosamine to deplete ATP in the body (the body’s way of storing energy). Thus, the sensation of feeling exhausted all the time.

Can you believe that? A month of eating better than I have in years. Pushing myself through the endless sugar withdrawals, fat withdrawals all to be waylaid by a supplement. Really?

The truly funny part about this is the sugar withdrawals. Glucosamine is a sugar. So, those withdrawals were pretty much 24/7. From a Chinese Medical perspective, too much sugar in the blood causes phlegm which Chinese Medicine considers a thick fluid that has a difficult time going through the joint membranes causing more pain. In addition, sugar is the flavor of the spleen, but in excess overwhelms the spleen causing things like diarrhea, diabetes, fatigue, weight gain etc.

What does this mean? Well, it means that I’m starting over again and have kicked the glucosamine habit to the curb. Right now, all the research is with glucosamine sulfate and there is conversation that the other types of glucosamine do not have the same impact. So,back at step one and looking for powerful supplements to stop joint pain. Before I start…can I get a chocolate bar?

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